As I cleaned out my living space of shit I didn't want or need anymore, I got to thinking about what's changed up in my attic since last winter solstice holiday. My life has changed so much in the last year, that when I take it all in, it's mind-boggling. I could list it all here, but it would definitely be TLDR.

I think the biggest thing was finally realizing just how important the people in my life are, and how imperative it is to not only select the best people to surround myself with, but to properly maintain those relationships, and to continuously look for new people to keep life from getting stale. Not to mention a ton of little rules and social graces that keep interactions smooth and seemingly effortless, that I had always neglected before.

Second would probably be finding my will. I've always had a lot of desire for stuff, but never the will to actually go about getting any of it. Now I'm much more confident in my abilities to prioritize my desires and putting forth the effort to achieve them, and also not putting too much on my plate at one time.

I go into 2008 very much optimistic about what the future will hold, as well as a good idea of what I want to learn to make 2009 that much better. How about you guys? Have you learned anything over the last year?

I wish you good luck with your next exiting year then :)
Hope it will be as good as this one.

Made a few changes myself, and I'm loving it!

2007: Started off shitty. Had some nice moments in the middle. Is ending pretty crappy, but not nearly as shitty as it began.

2008: Despite all of my issues and such, I still remain an optimist. Just a pissed off optimist.

I think 2008 is going to be an exciting year for me, although perhaps slightly stressful... 2007 was alright, had a few bumps at times but mostly good.

2007: Started off shitty. Had some nice moments in the middle. Is ending pretty crappy, but not nearly as shitty as it began.

2008: Despite all of my issues and such, I still remain an optimist. Just a pissed off optimist.
That's nice, but did you learn anything? Things go shitty, and things go great, but learning is what keeps it all interesting, and makes for more great moments and fewer shitty ones. Optimism is blind unless tempered by wisdom.

That's nice, but did you learn anything? Things go shitty, and things go great, but learning is what keeps it all interesting, and makes for more great moments and fewer shitty ones. Optimism is blind unless tempered by wisdom.

"In seeking wisdom thou art wise; in imagining that thou hast attained it - thou art a fool." Lord Chesterfield

Hope your 'new attitude' includes going back to college, Nappy. Nothing else you can do right now will come as close to guaranteeing you a good future.

;)
SMW

*checks* Nope. I still don't respect your opinion.

Try again next year! :)

*checks* Nope. I still don't respect your opinion.

Try again next year! :)

Yet another reason you should go back to school... learn some manners and social graces.

Happy New Year, Nap. For some reason, I think we'll probably be hearing about another of your grand plans to get rich quick in 2008. Just don't make the mistake of all talk and no action. IOW, wasting a year of your life. You know, like you did this year?

;)
SMW

As opposed to you, who spent all that time driving up the postcount of SMW speaks, Miss 17-posts-a-day.

Naw, this time you'll only hear about it after it's already done.

Weren't you reading? I already learned the manners and social graces, I just see zero reason to use them on you. It's that whole "lack of respect" thing. I'm sure we could get Trav to play the worlds tiniest violin for you while you sit there and bitch. Dramatic effect and all.

Made a few changes myself, and I'm loving it!
I'd love to hear about them!

As I cleaned out my living space of shit I didn't want or need anymore, I got to thinking about what's changed up in my attic since last winter solstice holiday. My life has changed so much in the last year, that when I take it all in, it's mind-boggling. I could list it all here, but it would definitely be TLDR.

I think the biggest thing was finally realizing just how important the people in my life are, and how imperative it is to not only select the best people to surround myself with, but to properly maintain those relationships, and to continuously look for new people to keep life from getting stale. Not to mention a ton of little rules and social graces that keep interactions smooth and seemingly effortless, that I had always neglected before.

Second would probably be finding my will. I've always had a lot of desire for stuff, but never the will to actually go about getting any of it. Now I'm much more confident in my abilities to prioritize my desires and putting forth the effort to achieve them, and also not putting too much on my plate at one time.

I go into 2008 very much optimistic about what the future will hold, as well as a good idea of what I want to learn to make 2009 that much better. How about you guys? Have you learned anything over the last year?

Napster has a topic! Totally to cool! :)

Knowing Napster :) this has got to be fun!

TAG! I am "tagging" this topic to my E-mail :) !

Love you Napster!

Somebody named "tuck" ! :)

I think 2008 is going to be an exciting year for me, although perhaps slightly stressful... 2007 was alright, had a few bumps at times but mostly good.

I lose track - are you and Borg still a happy couple?

Nope,
They went Splitsville a long time ago, Daddy-o.

Good topic, Nappy.
The year's end is always a good time to take stock of where you are, to evaluate what you've learned or accomplished over the past year, and to make plans for improvement in the future.

Please make an attempt to find some sort of peace with Smartmouthwoman.
I know that she rubs you the wrong way, but she really did offer you some pretty good advice there.
(Plus, if you act nice to her, she just might send you some photos from that little vacation she and I took to the Bahamas a couple of years ago.
If you can get past the sight of me in a Speedo, you will be greatly rewarded.
SMW looks incredibly fetching in her little striped bikini.)

I myself am going on a personal improvement journey of sorts in 2008.
I need to get back into shape, and I want to get my run back.
(I used to be an avid runner, and over the past couple of years I have let it fall seriously off.)
I am going to re-institute my every-other-day workout routine, (crawl-walk-run) and by April I hope to be back up to running 2 1/2 miles comfortably and effortlessly.
http://www.fotosearch.com/comp/phd/PHD258/runners-legs-~-SS07008.jpg

Offered me good advice? You think I haven't considered college, considered it every time I was looking to make a change in my life?

Maybe I was just waiting, wishing with all my heart that the right person would come along and suggest college again, so I'd finally get the desire to actually go again? And there she was! She's completely changed my mind! :rolleyes:

She didn't offer me "good advice," nor will she ever. I have no interest in making peace with her. She has nothing to offer me, except her foolish Texas-sized ego. I know I've got a big head, but I can at least get it right some of the time. SMW doesn't even have the record of a broken clock. Her moronic attempts to get me to accept her point of view only irritate me further. I'm afraid there's no middle ground to meet on, Sparky. Sorry.

Offered me good advice? You think I haven't considered college, considered it every time I was looking to make a change in my life?

Maybe I was just waiting, wishing with all my heart that the right person would come along and suggest college again, so I'd finally get the desire to actually go again? And there she was! She's completely changed my mind! :rolleyes:

She didn't offer me "good advice," nor will she ever. I have no interest in making peace with her. She has nothing to offer me, except her foolish Texas-sized ego. I know I've got a big head, but I can at least get it right some of the time. SMW doesn't even have the record of a broken clock. Her moronic attempts to get me to accept her point of view only irritate me further. I'm afraid there's no middle ground to meet on, Sparky. Sorry.Relax...it's the internet, dude. You take this shit much too seriously. :)

I lose track - are you and Borg still a happy couple?
No, not for quite a while now.

More about the coming year:
First, I get to do an internship with the Smithsonian, at the Postal Museum, starting next month. It also marks the beginning of my last semester at community college, since I'll be transferring to a four-year university in the fall. I'll also be 18 in April. My boyfriend starts a new, much better, job next month, and he's going to spend most of the year saving up for a down payment for his ("our" he says) own house. I think that's all the exciting stuff that I can anticipate for now. Hopefully I'll get a chance to travel again this year, especially since I won't be taking classes this summer.

Relax...it's the internet, dude. You take this shit much too seriously. :)
Sparky made a request, so I'm just explaining myself.

No, not for quite a while now.

Shows how up to date I am. The last I saw about that you two were head over heels.

So - who dumped who?

Shows how up to date I am. The last I saw about that you two were head over heels.

So - who dumped who?
Do we really need to be having this discussion?

Shows how up to date I am. The last I saw about that you two were head over heels.

So - who dumped who?
Apparently Borg doesn't want the details to be public. Suffice it to say that being in a long distance relationship was very hard on both of us, especially me, what with my unpredictable mental state and all.

Apparently Borg doesn't want the details to be public. Suffice it to say that being in a long distance relationship was very hard on both of us, especially me, what with my unpredictable mental state and all.
The details are already public (I think), I just don't want to have yet another discussion about it.

Apparently Borg doesn't want the details to be public. Suffice it to say that being in a long distance relationship was very hard on both of us, especially me, what with my unpredictable mental state and all.

Most women have unpredictable mental states - thats nothing unusual.

Well anyway - I won't drag up the issue seeing as it's already been apparently discussed - I was just curious.

It's good that you both seem to be ok still interacting on AF.

Yeah, we're still definitely friends. Maybe not the same as before but we still talk.

Humm :)

Interested reader at reading....this is some interesting stuff!

Reader tuck

"How about you guys? Have you learned anything over the last year?"

I've learned a lot more about who i am really. This year was the year i really started getting into animal rights. Which reminds me,for Christmas i got "Lolita:slave to entertainment" the documentary! It's supposed to be comming in the mail! yeah!:banana:

Do we really need to be having this discussion?
No offense, but you're the one who made the relationship public knowledge. It should come as no suprise that people wonder how you guys are doing now. I didnt know you two were not a couple either. Of course, i took a hiatus and barely remembered you dated in the first place. :)

No offense, but you're the one who made the relationship public knowledge. It should come as no suprise that people wonder how you guys are doing now. I didnt know you two were not a couple either. Of course, i took a hiatus and barely remembered you dated in the first place. :)

Yep thats true - I remember posted photo's, that big smile on Borgs face after he popped his cherry.

What is life but a learning experience.

I'd love to hear about them!

Well, in short, quiting my job, moving to the city, far from home and starting Uni again. In the process I also moved away from a relationship that wasn't working, so pretty much an overall fresh start :)

Yep thats true - I remember posted photo's, that big smile on Borgs face after he popped his cherry.

What is life but a learning experience.
ROFL. Wow. :lolhit:

Well, in short, quiting my job, moving to the city, far from home and starting Uni again. In the process I also moved away from a relationship that wasn't working, so pretty much an overall fresh start :)
That's awesome! I always love to see a person find the priorities that really work for them. Too many get too comfortable in their crappy lives to make changes. Good on you!

My life has changed so much in the last year, that when I take it all in, it's mind-boggling.
Same here in a few aspects. I think the biggest realization I came to was I didn't have to put up with an abusive husband. I made the connection that true love DOESN'T hurt physically.
I've learned to love more those who are important in my life, family and friends.

I think the biggest thing was finally realizing just how important the people in my life are, and how imperative it is to not only select the best people to surround myself with, but to properly maintain those relationships, and to continuously look for new people to keep life from getting stale.
People are interesting, although I find I keep most at arms length. I haven't found the ability you have to open up to new people, I still find safety behind my wall.


Second would probably be finding my will. I've always had a lot of desire for stuff, but never the will to actually go about getting any of it. Now I'm much more confident in my abilities to prioritize my desires and putting forth the effort to achieve them, and also not putting too much on my plate at one time.

I go into 2008 very much optimistic about what the future will hold, as well as a good idea of what I want to learn to make 2009 that much better. How about you guys? Have you learned anything over the last year? I've learned trust is earned, love is gentle, and on the flip side, not everyone is cracked up to be what they say, life is short and precious; not to take it or anyone for granted because you never know what can come along and flip your world upside down.

that taste the rainbow avatar is rather interesting

ROFL. Wow. :lolhit:

Well you know - Borg is a very intelligent & mature kid - but i somehow sense you are about 20 years more emotionally advanced than he is - so I guess it had to end - at least he will always remember you as his first.

Young kids - they get jealous at the drop of a hat.

that taste the rainbow avatar is rather interesting
Yeah Drew. The more I look at it, the more I get penis envy. ;)

Well you know - Borg is a very intelligent & mature kid - but i somehow sense you are about 20 years more emotionally advanced than he is - so I guess it had to end - at least he will always remember you as his first.

Young kids - they get jealous at the drop of a hat.
My 2 cent is that they are both beyond their years, and long distance relations never work. They are both handling it well for young 'uns.

Yeah Drew. The more I look at it, the more I get penis envy. ;)

Yep - it's very inviting.

Well you know - Borg is a very intelligent & mature kid - but i somehow sense you are about 20 years more emotionally advanced than he is - so I guess it had to end - at least he will always remember you as his first.
If by emotionally advanced you mean emotionally disturbed, sure. I suppose they're kind of the same thing anyways. More experiences most likely equal more painful experiences for most people.

P.S.- I too have experienced the old "penis envy" dilemma... Definitely agree about your avatar. :thumbs:

If by emotionally advanced you mean emotionally disturbed, sure. I suppose they're kind of the same thing anyways. More experiences most likely equal more painful experiences for most people.

P.S.- I too have experienced the old "penis envy" dilemma... Definitely agree about your avatar. :thumbs:

There is little difference between emotionally disturbed and advanced - all you need are a few moments of clairity to make disturbed work for you.

What is this envy dilema women face? it sounds intriguing - I have no comprehension of what you are talking about - because I am male I supose.

What is this envy dilema women face? it sounds intriguing - I have no comprehension of what you are talking about - because I am male I supose.
Well... take Imp's avatar for example... That girl just looks so inviting, and if you were a guy you could just... hmm... "enter the cave of rainbows" is how I should put it. Sounds like a good thought, right? It does to Imp and me too. :thumbs:

Well... take Imp's avatar for example... That girl just looks so inviting, and if you were a guy you could just... hmm... "enter the cave of rainbows" is how I should put it. Sounds like a good thought, right? It does to Imp and me too. :thumbs:

Interesting - thats how men & women differ. I just liked the picture - I would have liked it more if the rainbow shorts were gone & no mention of rainbows was even evident. The rainbow socks were neat though - but any color would have been just fine.

No guy would ever think 'enter the cave of rainbows'

What is this envy dilema women face?
I don't know, but all of a sudden I have a craving for Skittles!

:D

I don't know, but all of a sudden I have a craving for Skittles!

:D
How's it hanging, Turd?

I hope that everything is going as well as that sand flea infested area allows. Do those arab ladies privates run north to south or east to west? Inquiring minds want to know (or not... depends on the smell).

:D

I like the direction this thread's going!

I don't know, but all of a sudden I have a craving for Skittles!

:D

WOW.

;)

How's it hanging, Turd?

I hope that everything is going as well as that sand flea infested area allows. Do those arab ladies privates run north to south or east to west? Inquiring minds want to know (or not... depends on the smell).

:D
Everything is going well here. It's been very quiet for some time now.

As for the women...I wouldn't know. I stay as far away from them as I possibly can!:thumbs: (That and I'm married!)

Hope you are having a wonderful holiday season!

That's awesome! I always love to see a person find the priorities that really work for them. Too many get too comfortable in their crappy lives to make changes. Good on you!

I moved back to my hometown a few years ago and never settled again, so I was just looking for a way out :)

What is this envy dilema women face? it sounds intriguing - I have no comprehension of what you are talking about - because I am male I supose.

Back on the "offtopic" topic :D
Not so much "envy" but many women, or at least I, find certain women attractive, tho I'm not so sure I wish I could enter the "rainbow cave" in that way :)