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warrior1972
05-11-2007, 12:01 PM
By Jane Lampman, Staff writer of The Christian Science Monitor
Thu May 10, 4:00 AM ET



Salem, Mass. - Wednesday night on ABC-TV, two televangelists took on nonbelievers from the Rational Response Squad in a bid to prove the existence of God (see "Nightline Face Off" on ABCNews.com).

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The TV polemics come in the wake of a rash of bestselling books by atheists challenging religion. Richard Dawkins, Sam Harris, and Christopher Hitchens, among others, go beyond questioning God to charge that religion is a plague that needs to be eliminated. Their vehemence, some suggest, is in response to ChrisSpamtian attacks on evolution and stem-cell research.

"It's Christian militancy that has evoked a backlash of atheist militancy," says Michael Bleiweiss, a physicist and atheist from Methuen, Mass.

Amid the rising heat of this latest culture clash, though, a few people on both sides are finding calmer ways to engage, seeking to build bridges and even learn from one another. Some Christians, concerned that millions of Americans never cross the threshold of a church, want to understand why, as well as learn what it is in evangelistic efforts that turns people off. Some atheists, worried that polls show they are the least accepted social group in the country, want to break down stereotypes and change people's attitudes.

So both are willing to sit down together in different venues, discuss their divergent perspectives, and, in some cases, jointly visit church services across the United States. As a result, they are sparking a growing Christian-atheist dialogue on the Web.

At a conference in Salem, Mass., last Saturday, for example, Christians from several states listened to atheists and neopagans talk about who they are, the origin of their ethics and beliefs, and what challenges they encounter in a society that is predominantly Christian.

"I've never understood treating a people group as [the enemy] because their belief system is different," says Phil Wyman, pastor of The Gathering, a Salem church that sponsored the conference.

Jim Henderson, a former Evangelical pastor from Seattle who moderated the atheism discussion, has been getting an earful for some time. Frustrated at his inability to draw more people to his church, Mr. Henderson set out to learn how "the unchurched" respond to various kinds of worship services – what it is they find appealing and what leaves them cold. He began to pay nonbelievers $25 to go to a church and tell him what they thought.

"I also became intrigued by why evangelism bothered everybody, including me," he says in an interview. "I decided to devote my life to reimagining evangelism ... how to do it and be 'normal.' "

Soon, he got wind of an auction on eBay in which a student at the University of Illinois in Chicago proposed "selling my soul" to the highest bidder. Young atheist Hemant Mehta had been raised in Jainism, but left the faith in his teens. Mr. Mehta was curious about Christianity and whether it could provide any evidence for the existence of God. Wondering if he might be missing something, he offered to attend church with the winning bidder.

High bidder takes atheist to church
With the top bid of $504, Henderson asked Mehta to visit 15 churches, fill out a survey on each one, and share his perspectives on Henderson's website (off-the-map.org).

The experience has changed the lives of both men. Mehta, now an honors graduate in mathematics and biology, has not converted, but the two have become friends. Mehta has started his own blog (friendlyatheist.com) and travels to speak to churches and humanist organizations. He has written a book – "I Sold My Soul on eBay" – that explains why he is an atheist and gives churches advice on what it would take to reach nonbelievers.

Henderson has gone on to pair with another atheist, Matt Casper, for further church visits across the US, and they've written "Jim and Casper Go to Church." Both books offer insightful, revealing, sometimes humorous critiques of what a variety of Christian services, in churches of different sizes and denominations, look like to the uninitiated.

Henderson also conducts interviews with men and women who are nonSpambelievers as an event at church and pastor conferences. Many Evangelicals "are obsessed with conversion," he says, and always speak of non-Christians as "lost." The interviews show Christians immersed in their own culture and how that sounds to the people they approach.

At the Salem conference, Mr. Bleiweiss recalled a co-worker who "worked Jesus into every conversation we had."

Henderson's experiences have led him, with his "Off The Map" venture, into "something larger than evangelism," what he calls "otherliness." Otherliness – "the spirituality of serving others" – involves "drawing people into the idea of paying real attention to each other, of listening." He wants to teach individuals and groups of all kinds how to do a much better job of listening to those they interact with.

For his part, Mehta is still open to "any compelling evidence of the existence of God." He describes positive elements in some churches, such as top-notch speakers and impressive community outreach. "The more work churches do for everyone, the more respect they'll get from outsiders," he writes.

Yet churchgoers are missing the mark, he says, when they think nonSpamreligious people lack a basis for ethical values, look down on non-Christians, or fail to speak out against religious leaders who make outrageous public statements.

What would convince him? A miracle.
During church services, they often fail to explain traditions or rituals, which leaves visitors confused. "Why is the structure of the service always the same?" Mehta wonders.

Zeroing in on "what it would take to convert me," he says a church would need to appeal to his sense of reason, challenge him to think more deeply, and allow for asking questions. "I wasn't confronted with a new line of thinking that challenged my commitment to scientific empiricism," he writes. Also, he'd want a church where "men and women lead on an equal basis."

Most important, he states, what would convince him would be "a miracle – an undeniable miracle that has no natural explanation."

While on their tour of the most prominent megachurches and stylistically innovative churches, Mr. Casper asked Henderson, "Is this what Jesus told you guys to do?"

The 30-something father of two is generally unimpressed with the multiSpammedia "killer" church services they attend. Articulate in explaining his reactions in detail, he, like Mehta, also finds in the predictable format of services that "certainty is boring, certainty is closed off."

When a healing is mentioned in one Pentecostal service, though, he reacts strongly. If that man can heal, he says, "why is he ... hanging out in this building?... Get out there, then! There are people who need your help."

Saying that he loves the teachings of Jesus, along with those of other important teachers, Casper concludes: "The question that just came up for me again and again ... is, What does the way Christianity is practiced today have to do with the ... words and deeds" of Jesus?

For Henderson, Wyman, and Mehta, the value of talking and listening to those with differing worldviews has become crystal clear.

Pastor Wyman has been reaching out to non-Christians in Salem, and particularly to the large neopagan community here (attracted, no doubt, by Salem's identification with witchcraft in Colonial times). His stereotypes about witches were often wrong, he says. Having formed respectful relationships, he's now being asked to come to pagan events to speak about Christian perspectives.

"Christians for quite some time have been creating events and trying to draw people into our little box, and we call that 'outreach,' " he says. "This is an exciting opportunity – people are opening, listening, and seeking out spiritual things."

tucker58
05-28-2007, 09:52 PM
Religion is comparable to a childhood neurosis" Sigmund Freud

So Warrior1972, are you religious? Or are you neurotic?

One would think that with your wisdom that you would have gotten things figured out already. :)

tucker58

warrior1972
05-28-2007, 10:11 PM
yawn..Go bore someone else

Frogger
05-29-2007, 03:08 AM
Religion is comparable to a childhood neurosis" Sigmund Freud

So Warrior1972, are you religious? Or are you neurotic?

One would think that with your wisdom that you would have gotten things figured out already. :)

tucker58

One would think that with YOUR wisdom you would have bothered to read more than one post by someone before jumping to a conclusion.

tucker58
05-29-2007, 12:55 PM
:) Hi Frogger, Hi Warrior!

Nice to meet you guys.

Everything has two sides. Why would Christians be concerned about folks that don't go to church? Money? Power? The opportunity to shape simple minds? Maybe :)

Tucker58

warrior1972
05-29-2007, 12:56 PM
yeah watch out tucker I am a troll, christian hater and shit stirer. They can call pro choice pro murder but when god mass murderes people for not reason he is not a murderer.

Yes I agree there are two sides to every story.

tucker58
05-29-2007, 01:21 PM
yeah watch out tucker I am a troll, christian hater and shit stirer. They can call pro choice pro murder but when god mass murderes people for not reason he is not a murderer.

Yes I agree there are two sides to every story.

Warrior that was fun! I like you! I am just here for the "Donnybrook" :) not to convert you :)

Personally I think the Goddess did it. How can it be God's fault if there isn't one?

Tucker58

warrior1972
05-29-2007, 02:25 PM
Well you got to be careful if you call god a woman around here. the male dominated Christian religion will have a hissy fit over it. Since woman caused the whole downfall of man from the garden of eden by eating the apple and then force feeding the apple to the man. Maybe she promised putting out some if he ate it. Who knows but woman are evil and weak and no way one could be smart enough to create the Universe. That is hersay.

tucker58
05-30-2007, 01:14 PM
Well you got to be careful if you call god a woman around here. the male dominated Christian religion will have a hissy fit over it. Since woman caused the whole downfall of man from the garden of eden by eating the apple and then force feeding the apple to the man. Maybe she promised putting out some if he ate it. Who knows but woman are evil and weak and no way one could be smart enough to create the Universe. That is hersay.

Warrior, I think you and I have met before :) only in this messageboard we get to be ourselves. :lolhit: :) (a smily for Frogger)

What is funny Warrior is that non Christians think that I am way to Christian and Christians think that I am at "minimum", a heretic. I am not even allowed on Christian messageboards. :)

God created a garden east of Eden and then created a man to work in that garden. The man was lazy and didn't want to work, so the man asked God to make him a helpmate (that is short for somebody to do the work for him). So God made woman and put man incharge of woman :) The moral of this story is that if woman had been properly supervised, we all would still be living in the Garden of Eden :drive: :woohoo: :drinktoth (another smily for Frogger :) )

No matter how you look at it it is all man's fault. Father God's only mistake was creating "man" in the first place. And because of that one mistake He is now being hounded by Warrior who is a man. :)

Tucker58

warrior1972
05-30-2007, 03:20 PM
um I am a woman and I really love the sexist part where men are like in charge of us LOL.

I have yet to find any man "in Charge" of me.

If I bow to a man for any reason say he is in a position of authority. I do it because I personally like or favor him not because he can fire me or ban me or whatever.

I have told many male bosses to shove it up thier ass and divorce men in my life who do not live up to my standards.

I have yet found any man who could order me around or be "in Charge" of me without my allowing myself to be "controlled"

smartmouthwoman
05-30-2007, 03:29 PM
um I am a woman and I really love the sexist part where men are like in charge of us LOL.

I have yet to find any man "in Charge" of me.

If I bow to a man for any reason say he is in a position of authority. I do it because I personally like or favor him not because he can fire me or ban me or whatever.

I have told many male bosses to shove it up thier ass and divorce men in my life who do not live up to my standards.

I have yet found any man who could order me around or be "in Charge" of me without my allowing myself to be "controlled"
Wow again. Dang, you've really got it together, woman.

Just kick 'em to the curb, surf the net and find ya a new one!

I sure am jealous. Think you could give me lessons?

:)
SMW

warrior1972
05-30-2007, 03:33 PM
who said I find men on the net? I have met only one person on the "net"

yes I am sure you even have a man or does the blow up doll in your closet count maybe the chainsaw dildo?

warrior1972
05-30-2007, 03:35 PM
Now that I think about it. You and Frogger probably meet up and commit adultry. Your both old hags with nothing better to do than to push you vengful god propaganda.

MrsKimi
05-30-2007, 03:40 PM
:corn:

tucker58
05-31-2007, 03:13 PM
um I am a woman and I really love the sexist part where men are like in charge of us LOL.

I have yet to find any man "in Charge" of me.

If I bow to a man for any reason say he is in a position of authority. I do it because I personally like or favor him not because he can fire me or ban me or whatever.

I have told many male bosses to shove it up thier ass and divorce men in my life who do not live up to my standards.

I have yet found any man who could order me around or be "in Charge" of me without my allowing myself to be "controlled"

Warrior you are a gift to mankind :) most men are idiots, so to speak, otherwise we all wouldn't be in the mess that we all are in :)

The truth is that a good leader is also a good follower. It just depends on the challenge at any given point in time that the team is up against. My wife and I are a team. I tell her that she has 51 percent of the vote and she tells me the I have 51 percent of the vote. So we plug along. Mostly she is in charge, but sometimes I have to be. It depends on the challenge. She wants me to be in charge and I want her to be in charge. But when the chips are down, we are a team and we "kick butt" together :) If I ever go back to Paradise, all I want is my wife.

Hey Warrior! :) "I order you to be you!" :) Oh shit! I am up to my "Butt" in trouble again :) !

Tucker58 :)

DarkFantasy96
05-31-2007, 08:53 PM
I think we should force all feminists to spend the rest of their lives barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen. :lolhit:

Okay maybe not to that sort of extreme, but I've always found feminism to be idiotic. Most "feminists" act like their being oppressed if a man even makes a suggestion to them. Honestly I am happy in relationships in which I am not in charge. I'd rather have someone run things for me because I am lazy. My boyfriend is an old-fashioned Southern gentleman (seriously, when we go out to eat he stays standing until I sit down... weird huh?) and he treats me wonderfully. Since we don't live together or anything we don't really have any major decisions to make, but if we ever do, he will certainly make them. Of course I expect to be consulted on everything but I have no problem giving in to his judgment on things.

Okay I just realized that was getting a little incoherent and possibly may not make sense to anyone but I hope you all get the point.

Imp
05-31-2007, 09:11 PM
I think we should force all feminists to spend the rest of their lives barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen. :lolhit:

:hahanot: 'to the kitchen, bitchs!'

I get what you're saying DF, it's coherent. *Imp swoons at chivalry*

I'm raising Sammy and {JJ when I have him}, to treat women right and be gentlemen. Everyone always tells me how well behave and kind they are. There are going to be 2 very lucky girls who marry my sons. ;)

Evakian
05-31-2007, 09:14 PM
Your both old hags with nothing better to do than to push you vengful god propaganda.
Better than being an old hag with nothing better to do than push hatred and crudeness.

warrior1972
05-31-2007, 10:34 PM
I think we should force all feminists to spend the rest of their lives barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen. :lolhit:

Okay maybe not to that sort of extreme, but I've always found feminism to be idiotic. Most "feminists" act like their being oppressed if a man even makes a suggestion to them. Honestly I am happy in relationships in which I am not in charge. I'd rather have someone run things for me because I am lazy. My boyfriend is an old-fashioned Southern gentleman (seriously, when we go out to eat he stays standing until I sit down... weird huh?) and he treats me wonderfully. Since we don't live together or anything we don't really have any major decisions to make, but if we ever do, he will certainly make them. Of course I expect to be consulted on everything but I have no problem giving in to his judgment on things.

Okay I just realized that was getting a little incoherent and possibly may not make sense to anyone but I hope you all get the point.

So you are saying that woman who expect equal pay and be in the military to fight for our country idoitic? Wow how dick whipped are you? Seriously as long as you play the part of a man needing to take care of you there will never be treated with equality and seen as weak and timid.

The only reason you get the pay you get now is because of feminist. They only reason you see woman anchors on the news is because of feminist and the only reason you are allowed to vote in this country and able to go to work if you want is because of feminist.

and you call them idiotic. HA

play the barbie doll that needs the door opened for them and the meal paid by the man and the man makes the money in the family. I am sure it is safer that way than being independent.

warrior1972
05-31-2007, 10:36 PM
Better than being an old hag with nothing better to do than push hatred and crudeness.

Proudly be an old hag the teaches the truth about religious nutjobs.. or excuse me "hate and crudeness" then pushing fairy tales and propaganda.

~Sal~
05-31-2007, 10:46 PM
I am not even allowed on Christian messageboards. :)

Tucker58


Oh good I like you already. You ought to be able to raise a few hackles around here, speaking of a Donnybrook....

Just kidding. Sort of. Some here think I am a heretic and refer to me as an atheist although I am not. However why correct ignorance when it displays itself so entertainingly.

Welcome to the board. Walk softly and carry a big stick and you shall be fine.

Imp
06-01-2007, 07:47 AM
Now that I think about it. You and Frogger probably meet up and commit adultry. Your both old hags with nothing better to do than to push you vengful god propaganda.
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~Sal~
06-01-2007, 07:49 AM
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v133/tormented/signs/leavetheinternet.jpg

Morning doll. I was just signing off anyway. Don't get pushy. Later baby!

Imp
06-01-2007, 07:51 AM
Haha, I didn't mean you sweetie.;p I'm chilling. Later doll.

warrior1972
06-01-2007, 10:20 AM
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v133/tormented/signs/leavetheinternet.jpg

STFU :upyours:

Your not very bright yourself because you are not suppose to be posted to me.

I love it when morons call other people stupid and do it with pride..
ROFLMAO

MrsKimi
06-01-2007, 10:23 AM
play the barbie doll that needs the door opened for them and the meal paid by the man and the man makes the money in the family. I am sure it is safer that way than being independent.

Believe it or not, it's possible to be independent AND allow a man to be a gentleman toward you. Of course, it takes being a lady for a gentleman to respond in kind. My boys were raised by a fiercely independent woman, because I had to be, raising them alone, but they were also taught how to behave like gentlemen and practice those teachings to this day as grown men. They were also taught equality among the sexes. Feminism has done a lot for women, it's also done a lot of damage in a number of ways, regarding relationships. It's called moderation and give and take.

:)
Kimi

rendova
06-01-2007, 10:50 AM
Believe it or not, it's possible to be independent AND allow a man to be a gentleman toward you. Of course, it takes being a lady for a gentleman to respond in kind. My boys were raised by a fiercely independent woman, because I had to be, raising them alone, but they were also taught how to behave like gentlemen and practice those teachings to this day as grown men. They were also taught equality among the sexes. Feminism has done a lot for women, it's also done a lot of damage in a number of ways, regarding relationships. It's called moderation and give and take.

:)
Kimi

Excellent, kimi!
All hail to strong women everywhere!

MrsKimi
06-01-2007, 11:00 AM
Excellent, kimi!
All hail to strong women everywhere!


Thanks, Ren....strong doesn't have to mean bitch, right?

:)
Kimi

rendova
06-01-2007, 11:06 AM
Yes...what it means is, chivalry.


Folks, chivalry is NOT dead. For goodness sakes, if a fella wants to open a door for you, let him, and then thank him!
i've also opened a door for gentlemen whose arms were full or were otherwise unable.

MrsKimi
06-01-2007, 11:12 AM
Yes...what it means is, chivalry.


Folks, chivalry is NOT dead. For goodness sakes, if a fella wants to open a door for you, let him, and then thank him!
i've also opened a door for gentlemen whose arms were full or were otherwise unable.

:drinktoth

Amen, sister!! I've got that with my guy and I truly appreciate it.

:)
Kimi

rendova
06-01-2007, 11:52 AM
I USED to have that--about 20 years ago.
After working 14-16 hour days, when hubby comes home, he sits in his recliner and STAYS there.
can't say that I blame him.
Ah well, I can open my own door----thank god!!!

warrior1972
06-01-2007, 11:53 AM
Believe it or not, it's possible to be independent AND allow a man to be a gentleman toward you. Of course, it takes being a lady for a gentleman to respond in kind. My boys were raised by a fiercely independent woman, because I had to be, raising them alone, but they were also taught how to behave like gentlemen and practice those teachings to this day as grown men. They were also taught equality among the sexes. Feminism has done a lot for women, it's also done a lot of damage in a number of ways, regarding relationships. It's called moderation and give and take.

:)
Kimi

I agree. My husband usually pays for our meals because he knows I am disabled right now not because I am weak. I have no problem with it.

This is what I have a problem with. I am on a date and say I am going to pay for the meal and the man refuses to let me because of his "ego" that a man must pay. Then I say at least let me pay for half the meal...again he refuses to let me pay for my portion simply because he thinks it is his job. This is a problem for me. Why does he have the need to pay for my meals?? I am not helpless.

Same with opening the door. If I get to the door first I open it for a man, if he gets to the door first he opens the door. very simple but a man that goes out of his way to get to the door first is not gentlemen like .It is idiotic. I should not be treated in different way because I am female. Or the man gets all in a tiffy because I opened the door for him. I mean my god how pathetic.

It is about equality not about treating me "special" just because I am a woman.

Now if I am 8 months pregnant and the man wants to carry a heavy item for me I understand that but if I am not pregnant or have an arm in the sling I should not be helped in carrying a heavy object unless I ask. I am an adult and can decide for myself if I can do something on my own or not.

I understand respecting woman. I am not against respecting woman and treating them good by not verbally abusing them or physically abusing them, listening to thier needs this is different than doing things that singling us out as weak and in need of special treatment and protection.

warrior1972
06-01-2007, 12:03 PM
Oh yes and men who absolutley cannot stand a woman that makes more money than him. I mean if you really want to tell if your guy respect you get a job that pays more than his and see if he stays with you. I know so many womans who's husbands have left them because the woman had better paying jobs.
Oh yes and the guys who think woman are suppose to have orgasism every time they have sex..god that is so annoying. They will have sex forever to try and make it happen to the point you just fake it so the will shut the hell up about it. Somehow it effect their manhood. Too much freakin pornos thinking woman get off at the drop of a hat. men like pump up and down like 3 times and get off while woman take like twice that long and that is only if they are not worrying about the kids, the bills, the social politics at work, is the house clean enough and other stuff that randomly runs through your head.

MrsKimi
06-01-2007, 12:14 PM
Um, well......I think there are all kinds of assholes and all kinds of bitches out there and not everybody was taught how to respect others and their place or lot in life. If it's all about controlling somebody else, it's not chivalry. A true gentleman, and I know what he looks like because I was raised by the epitome of a true gentleman, will simply want to be a gentleman and open the door for a lady, or treat them to a nice dinner. I, personally, appreciate it, even though I'm quite capable and willing to pay my own way, or open my own door. If there are control issues on either side, it's pointless to even try.

warrior1972
06-01-2007, 12:32 PM
Sure the guy can pay for my dinner if the next time we go out I can pay for his. I do not see why that is a problem to let me feel independent and pay for my own meal. If a guy wants to treat me to a nice dinner he can cook me one and then wash the dishes for me. Now that is respect.
A man wants to do something nice for me he can change the kids diapers every once in a while as a treat to me. Now that is honor... or a gentleman is a man who will stay home with the kids and read them a book and put them to bed so I can go to a book club with my girlfriends and have some "me" time.
Now that is respect!!!
That is honoring a woman!

DarkFantasy96
06-01-2007, 02:49 PM
My, my. I didn't say I was against equal pay and being in the military and whatnot. The point is, pretty much ALL women want these things. Therefore, pretty much all women are technically feminists. I should have been more clear, really I don't like the women who call themselves feminists. They are generally the type who hate men and believe they are oppressed by men. I am flattered when a man wants to open a door for me or pay on a date; I don't consider it an insult to my independence. Of course I can open doors for myself and I almost always do. And of course I can pay when we go on a date, but since I'm 17 and I don't have a job my boyfriend feels uncomfortable spending my parents' money when he has a job and has a lot more expendable income than I do. I did pay for dinner when we went out for dinner and a movie last week because he only had $20, but then my parents were angry at me for spending all that money at once since I had to ask them for money to buy my lunches at school like 4 days later.

What I don't like is when guys expect me to pay on dates. I like to be able to offer to pay, but if they ask me out, I think they should pay.

TurdFerguson
06-01-2007, 09:42 PM
I'm raising Sammy and {JJ when I have him}, to treat women right and be gentlemen. Everyone always tells me how well behave and kind they are. There are going to be 2 very lucky girls who marry my sons. ;)
Those are two very lucky boys to have you as their mother.:)

:thumbs:

Foolsworth
06-01-2007, 09:53 PM
I USED to have that--about 20 years ago.
After working 14-16 hour days, when hubby comes home, he sits in his recliner and STAYS there.
can't say that I blame him.
Ah well, I can open my own door----thank god!!!

I don't cotton mush to Atheists.
It just ain't natural I tells ya.

" Cleomenes" {1692}
" Virtue in distress,and vice in triumph
Make atheists of mankind "
-- John Dryden

rendova
06-02-2007, 06:44 AM
I don't cotton mush to Atheists.
It just ain't natural I tells ya.

" Cleomenes" {1692}
" Virtue in distress,and vice in triumph
Make atheists of mankind "
-- John Dryden

I have no problem with them. Live and let live---they don't bother me, I don't bother them.

Each according to his own conscience.

Massachusetts Bay Company Charter

Foolsworth
06-04-2007, 09:38 PM
[QUOTE=tucker58]Religion is comparable to a childhood neurosis" Sigmund Freud

" Jesus could have been an ordinary deluded creature. "
Sigmund Freud ---- To Oskar Pfister