Do they work?

They can work if you have a strong (not long distance) relationship in the first place, and if both parties involved are mature and not inclined towards infidelity...

I don't believe they can work...

Oh and one more thing... You must be able to see the other person at least once every 2 months. Even then it's unlikely and takes a lot of commitment and responsibility...

If you are talking about an online relationship, I'm going to say pretty much 99.9% not going to work.

Originally posted by Uhlouis
I don't believe they can work...


I'm going to disagree with that. I live ten hours away from my boyfriend and it's hard, but do-able. It's almost been three months now and we're both still happy with our decision to become a couple. It takes effort though...we talk almost every night, be it by phone or instant message, and do what we can to see each other as often as we can. Our busy schedules and the cost of transportation put that about every other month right now, but hopefully soon our meetings will become more frequent.

I do agree with DarkFantasy96 in that I have doubts about online relationships. Jon and I were good friends before I moved away and I think that friendship really helped our relationship as a couple grow when we decided to give it a try.

I had a long distance relationship in the past and it didn't work. But hey - I had several relationships in the past that didn't work - so who knows!

They're both possible if both people are stcong enough to make it work.

Short term, yes... long term, no way!

Like most things, it depends on the people and their amount of loyalness and love.

True Love can conquer all...even long distance.

Ah, I see we have a romantic on the board Jere... I tend to be more cynical myself, preferring one night stands to actual relationships beause 1) people are assholes and 2) I get bored fast.

Not all people are A-holes and not all people are boring.

You can find someone.

lol this is great Dark your 14 and you already prefer one night stands to relationships, whilst im not against an active sex life it seems slightly disturbing youve been sexually active for long enough to experience both.

What specific things in relationships do you get bored of?

What traits in a person do you find would classify them an arsehole.

1) I'm a virgin (I think I have already said this in several threads, and people need to learn that relationships and one night stands don't need to go that far...)
2) There isn't any specific thing that I get bored of, I guess I just like the chase better than the catch.
3) When I said people, I was including myself. Anytime I get into even the most casual relationship at least one (usually both) people end up getting hurt.

Oh and jere, I did find someone, but he moved away and then I moved away so there's no hope for it now. I haven't heard from him in month and months, but I still cry for him all the time. (No this is not a big secret, so don't act like I told you people something you weren't supposed to know... I have no secrets.)

Originally posted by loolebella
I'm going to disagree with that. I live ten hours away from my boyfriend and it's hard, but do-able. It's almost been three months now and we're both still happy with our decision to become a couple. It takes effort though...we talk almost every night, be it by phone or instant message, and do what we can to see each other as often as we can. Our busy schedules and the cost of transportation put that about every other month right now, but hopefully soon our meetings will become more frequent.

I do agree with DarkFantasy96 in that I have doubts about online relationships. Jon and I were good friends before I moved away and I think that friendship really helped our relationship as a couple grow when we decided to give it a try.
I hate to be the one to break this to you, Bella, but he's sleeping with someone else as we speak. Long distance relationships don't work in practice, on paper, or, for that matter, on any level, period. Long distance relationships are better known as a fantasy, and those who believe in them are hopelessly romantic, or completely clueless. I'm sure your boyfriend's plenty nice while having a deep conversation through AOL instant messenger, but trust me, it's entirely superficial. You might think I'm being crass here, but I'm telling you the truth whether you like it or not.

Originally posted by The Praetorian
I hate to be the one to break this to you, Bella, but he's sleeping with someone else as we speak. Long distance relationships don't work in practice, on paper, or, for that matter, on any level, period. Long distance relationships are better known as a fantasy, and those who believe in them are hopelessly romantic, or completely clueless. I'm sure your boyfriend's plenty nice while having a deep conversation through AOL instant messenger, but trust me, it's entirely superficial. You might think I'm being crass here, but I'm telling you the truth whether you like it or not.

That's your opinion. I'm glad you know my boyfriend more than I do. I don't know what you're like but Jonathan isn't like that. Believe what you want about someone you've never even heard of. I know the truth.

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Originally posted by loolebella
That's your opinion. I'm glad you know my boyfriend more than I do. I don't know what you're like but Jonathan isn't like that. Believe what you want about someone you've never even heard of. I know the truth.
I don't have to know your boyfriend at all. All I have to know is that he has a penis, and right now "Jonathan" is planting it in another chick, whether you like it or not. Wake up…long distance marriages don’t work, so what makes you think a 21 thru 25-year-old boy, who’s away from his girlfriend, isn’t tapping someone else’s ass? Do you really think he's content masturbating with just thoughts of you on his mind?

Think about it.

Originally posted by The Praetorian
I don't have to know your boyfriend at all. All I have to know is that he has a penis, and right now "Jonathan" is planting it in another chick, whether you like it or not. Wake up…long distance marriages don’t work, so what makes you think a 21 thru 25-year-old boy, who’s away from his girlfriend, isn’t tapping someone else’s ass? Do you really think he's content masturbating with just thoughts of you on his mind?

Think about it.


Okay, like I said. Believe what you want. You're never going to convince me that my relationship isn't working. You're entitled to your own opinion, but that's all it is, an opinion. Because you cannot in any way validate your statement. But hey, go ahead and post something else saying I'm being cheated on and long distance relationships never work. Maybe someone else will read it and believe you.

Good luck.

Okay Praetorian, before you get to thinking that you know everything about what does and doesn't work in a relationship consider this:

Point one: The problem isn't distance, the problem is the nature of the individual. Take you, for example. It sounds to me like I should warn your significant other if you have one that you're getting busy with an orgy of other people. You also seem to think that your anatomy justifies that. Anybody who read my post in "Really bad break-ups" knows that I dated Derek for years and saw him nearly every day until I caught the bastard cheating on me. If I gave Derek the chance to blame his affair on his hormones I wouldn't buy it in the least. It'd just be more damage done to his car. Who would, anyway? Who here thinks a penis justifies cheating?

Point two: It's wonderful that you know how every long distance relationship is going to turn out, but guess what? You're wrong. Hell, my parents dated at least a year while my dad was in Montana and my mom was in Missouri. They had two daughters and were happily married for eleven years, and would be still today if my mom was still alive.

Here's another story for ya. My cousin married someone who she was involved with from across the country. They've been married for two years now and I've never seen a happier couple. Now you're probably so high and mighty now you'll accuse her husband of cheating on her while they were dating, right? I forget you know things about strangers' personal lives.

There are plenty of long distance relationships out there with happy endings. Not every guy is like you...ready to screw someone else as soon as someone's back is turned. Are you calling every guy in every one of those successful relationships unfaithful? Who are you to say that about anybody you don't know?

To Loolebella: If you trust your man and believe that your relationship with him is strong then I'm happy for the both of you. You be happy with whoever you want to be happy with and don't listen to people like Praetorian who are pretending to know everything when they know jack-shit to try to sound smart or wise or whatever the hell's going on in that "all-knowing" mind.

I love it when chicks talk about this type shit as if they've got the market cornered in understanding the penis riddle. Obviously, you've got shit to offer in the category of character assessment, or you wouldn't have dated "Derek" in the first place. Considering this, I think I'll take your assassination of my persona in stride. All I'm saying is more often than not; young guys will cheat when given the right opportunity to do so. As far as I know, Jonathan could be a eunuch. Their relationship might be based on drives in the country, berry picking, wine tasting, and cuddling, but somehow, I seriously doubt it. You stayed in the same town as your boyfriend, he fucked around on you, and you were going to MARRY him. What does that say about you??? Perhaps a leap of faith was all you needed to convince you that he was worthy of spending the rest of your life with him...

Yeah, girls...long distance relationships work really well when you have faith and love. Keep telling yourself that...

Guys can't even keep their dicks in their pants while incarcerated, and that's a pretty scary thought. While you think about that, ask your self this - If I were a practical, logical, pragmatic, and reasonable girl...would I trust a long distance relationship?

Think about it, Kate. What do you think the failure to success ratio is: 10:1, 20:1, or 50:1?

I guess it really doesn't matter, because it's a well-known fact that FAR MORE FAIL THAN WORK, and there's a reason why.

Prae is making a lot more sense than everyone else here, as usual. I actually think that people were not meant to be in exclusive relationships. It just doen't feel natural. Now if you really :: ahem :: "love" this guy and want to be with him and he wants to be with you and you want to be exclusive, good for you! ... I don't believe in relationships.

Thanks, DF. Here you are, a really young woman, and you're making better sense than these 22-year-old girls. Amazing. You know, you're gonna make some guy really lucky one day, and the funny thing is, he won't pull any bullshit with you because you'll see right through it.