My friends have been venting to me a lot lately about their relationship troubles and I thought it might be okay to start a thread about the subject.

My story is that about a year ago I dated someone and thought things were going along great. After six months, however, he showed his true form and seemingly disappeared from the face of the earth. He started avoiding me and stopped writing, stopped calling, stopped returning messages. It wasn't until a month went by when I spotted him making out with someone else that I knew what was really going on. *sigh* It's nice to say he's in my past.

That doesn't sound like a really bad breakup to me... If he starts avoiding you, you can pretty much assume that he's either found someone else or is just an asshole. I don't know about everyone else, but when I can see that someone isn't interested, I don't go chasing after them.... I have had some really bad breakups, especially with abusive guys. Try to break up with a guy who hits you and you'll see a bad breakup.

Nah, mine isn't so bad. But I've heard some really bad break-ups in my time and wondered if people wanted to share theirs.

I have no bad breakups to share! No good ones, either. And no mediocre ones. Wow, getting all this off my chest is really theraputic...:p

Wow, I LOVE this thread!!!

So Derek and I dated for four years, two in high school and two in college when Derek proposed marriage, and of course I said yes. Life was grand, everything was dandy....for about a month. I came home to my apartment from work one evening and found him...uh....with someone else on my bed.

So I took a bat to his brand new car and gave him a slug or two while I was at it for good measure. It's amazing what the sound of shattering glass or punched metal can do for one's mood, I suggest you try it sometime.

Well a few weeks went by and I asked him over to my place for dinner and to apologize, cuz, you know I felt bad right? Rrriiiggghhhttt ~whistles~. We had a lovely evening and everything was peachy keen....especially when we were washing dishes after the meal. I was at the sink and Derek was drying them next to me and oh my goodness! The ring "accidentally" fell off my finger and into the garbage disposal and somehow the disposal got turned on (don't know how that happened.....)Well if you don't think shattering glass will make your mood better try the sound of grinding diamonds and gold. It works wonders. After I was satisfied with the noise I chucked the decrepit thing at Derek and told him to get out of my life. I have no idea how much the ring cost, I don't really care either!

I love that story but I can see how it scares some people. I'm a harmless person unless I have reason not to be. I'm not bad to people who don't deserve it, really! Don't mess with me, my sister, or my friends and there's nothing to fear. :D

Remind me to stay on your good side . . .

Originally posted by LionelHutz
Remind me to stay on your good side . . .
Err...me too...

I think I might've done the same :cool:

I would have done the same, except I would have pawned the ring... Good hard cash is better than revenge for me:p

Long story short, I got ditched by my girlfriend (at the time) on my Junior prom night for an English Project.

Break up's are always bad. Rather you love the person for all time, or even if you cant stand them.

It's never easy to say goodbye.

Originally posted by jerejerebinks
Break up's are always bad. Rather you love the person for all time, or even if you cant stand them.

It's never easy to say goodbye.

I'm old...trust me, sometimes it's REALLY easy to say goodbye...;)

I got back together with one of my exes just recently, but it already ended last Sunday. We were only back together for 2 freakin weeks! The reason we broke up? His ex claimed she was pregnant with his child! So, he got back with her. Even though the doctors told him he cant have kids. The crazy thing is, that could be anyone's baby! She's a whore that cheated on him the whole time they were together. She also lied to him all the time and just treated him bad. What's the deal with that?? I dont understand why a man would want a woman that is so much trouble! Someone please explain that one! It makes no sense to me.

Originally posted by greenclover
I dont understand why a man would want a woman that is so much trouble! Someone please explain that one! It makes no sense to me.

love makes people act all crazy-like. i guess he's just superattatched to her for some reason, he probably doesn't really know why either.

i also just got back together with my ex yesterday. we'd gone out for three days over the summer. its all good.

So I took a bat to his brand new car and gave him a slug or two while I was at it for good measure. It's amazing what the sound of shattering glass or punched metal can do for one's mood, I suggest you try it sometime.

wowie. if i found my fiance in bed with someone else, i'd be really pissed too. at myself, though. i'd probably take a bat to my own car.

my first martial arts instructor took one of my girlfriends away when i was 16, peculiar situation to be in considering he was the one teaching my to fight.....so, couldnt really kick his ass........but life got even with the bastard. he got 5 to 10 years without probation to think about it.....lmao, now he's bubba's bitch.

Originally posted by greenclover
I got back together with one of my exes just recently, but it already ended last Sunday. We were only back together for 2 freakin weeks! The reason we broke up? His ex claimed she was pregnant with his child! So, he got back with her. Even though the doctors told him he cant have kids. The crazy thing is, that could be anyone's baby! She's a whore that cheated on him the whole time they were together. She also lied to him all the time and just treated him bad. What's the deal with that?? I dont understand why a man would want a woman that is so much trouble! Someone please explain that one! It makes no sense to me. well , if you ever get him back, or should i say want him back, treat him like shit.....he'll be yours for life. he couldnt lock her down, and that turned him out. it's like the women who walks all over a good and decent guy, but give her a wife beater, and she'll love him to death......go figure.

Originally posted by ~Sal~
I'm old...trust me, sometimes it's REALLY easy to say goodbye...;)

48 is hardly old...but I do humbly bow to your expierence.:p

After that, I dont think I would take him back. If they broke up again and he wanted me back, it would just make me wonder how long it's going to take before she comes crawling back and gets back with him again. She has him too wrapped around her finger. It's so sad.

i also just got back together with my ex yesterday. we'd gone out for three days over the summer. its all good.
Oh, that hurts me sputnik :( :tear:

I failed to resist. And God doth decreed, 'twas bad.

Originally posted by Blibblob
Oh, that hurts me sputnik :( :tear:

I failed to resist. And God doth decreed, 'twas bad.
Errr...obsess much?

Besides, sputnik's mine. You get WhammyBar. ;)

Originally posted by BorgHunter
Errr...obsess much?

Besides, sputnik's mine. You get WhammyBar. ;)

ahh, poor blib ; )

Originally posted by kitkateybug
Wow, I LOVE this thread!!!

So Derek and I dated for four years, two in high school and two in college when Derek proposed marriage, and of course I said yes. Life was grand, everything was dandy....for about a month. I came home to my apartment from work one evening and found him...uh....with someone else on my bed.

So I took a bat to his brand new car and gave him a slug or two while I was at it for good measure. It's amazing what the sound of shattering glass or punched metal can do for one's mood, I suggest you try it sometime.

Well a few weeks went by and I asked him over to my place for dinner and to apologize, cuz, you know I felt bad right? Rrriiiggghhhttt ~whistles~. We had a lovely evening and everything was peachy keen....especially when we were washing dishes after the meal. I was at the sink and Derek was drying them next to me and oh my goodness! The ring "accidentally" fell off my finger and into the garbage disposal and somehow the disposal got turned on (don't know how that happened.....)Well if you don't think shattering glass will make your mood better try the sound of grinding diamonds and gold. It works wonders. After I was satisfied with the noise I chucked the decrepit thing at Derek and told him to get out of my life. I have no idea how much the ring cost, I don't really care either!

I love that story but I can see how it scares some people. I'm a harmless person unless I have reason not to be. I'm not bad to people who don't deserve it, really! Don't mess with me, my sister, or my friends and there's nothing to fear. :D
Funny, I've dated women like you...

I broke up with a girl who keyed my 40 thousand dollar Mitsubishi for seeing one of her friends on the side. She thought it was pretty funny, but what I thought was even funnier was to set up ghost accounts in her name using a few friends and all of her personal information (checking account number, routing number, last known address, social security number, credit card numbers, and her drivers license number) while running up miscellaneous charges on duplicate cards for gasoline, a profitable endeavor when you get 20 people on the bandwagon, changed all of her passwords and account information, bought items over the internet I shipped to random peoples houses, stopped by her apartment at roughly 2:00 in the morning to pull the fire alarm, changed all of her utilities, purchased her the best cable money could buy and password protected it, disconnected her phone, cancelled her previous credit cards, and proudly wrecked her life. The dumb bitch forgot that I had her mailbox key, and well, I took care of the rest. All I'm saying is to exercise some caution when attempting to screw someone else, because just when you think you're fucking them, they're fucking you...

The moral of the story is NEVER touch a man's car unless he's an idiot and KNOW you can get away with it. Last I heard about the girl that keyed my car was that she filed for bankruptcy and still drives the same shitty Volkswagen.

Originally posted by The Praetorian
I broke up with a girl who keyed my 40 thousand dollar Mitsubishi for seeing one of her friends on the side. She thought it was pretty funny, but what I thought was even funnier was to set up ghost accounts in her name using a few friends and all of her personal information (checking account number, routing number, last known address, social security number, credit card numbers, and her drivers license number) while running up miscellaneous charges on duplicate cards for gasoline, a profitable endeavor when you get 20 people on the bandwagon, changed all of her passwords and account information, bought items over the internet I shipped to random peoples houses, stopped by her apartment on random weekday mornings at roughly 2:00am to pull the communal fire alarm, changed all of her utilities, purchased her the best cable money could buy and locked her out from altering the package, disconnected her phone, cancelled her previous credit cards, and proudly wrecked her life. The dumb bitch forgot that I had her mailbox key, and well, I took care of the rest. All I'm saying is to exercise some caution when attempting to screw someone else, because just when you think you're fucking them, they're fucking you...
You spent forty grand on a MITSUBISHI? Egad, that's awful...Mitsus are absolute junk.

The car I had was a slightly used, pearl white, '95 twin turbo charged 3000 GT VR-4 with 19'' two piece BBS forged wheels, an Apex fuel computer and turbo timer, an HKS blow off valve, a set of modified TD-05 turbos, a bigger fuel pump, enlarged injectors, a set of eibachs, and a Greddy exhaust. I purchased it for about 26k and put about 10 thousand dollars worth of mods into it. I was young - 20 at the time, living off daddy while enjoying the performance of a 400hp car with all wheel drive. It retailed for a little over 40, but that's neither here nor there - you get the picture.

Btw, Mitsu's are junk, ay? What are you driving again, Borg? ;)

Way back in 1974 I found out that my then fiance was cheating on me. So I started putting his name, phone number and address on every junk mail list and telemarketers list I could find. Remember the old match book covers you could fill out to get "information" from places? Or the "draw winkey" artist contests? The best ones were for porno, he must have gotten tons of very kinky porn. I put his name and info on everything I couldfind. He got phone calls and junk mail from thousands of places. And those places didnt give up easy. Once you were on their list it was immposible to get off. It was awesome. I spent the better part of a year doing this and trully enjoyed every minute of it.

Originally posted by The Praetorian
Btw, Mitsu's are junk, ay? What are you driving again, Borg? ;)
A Nissan. 1991 and still running strong. More than I can say for 99% of Mitsubishis.

Perhaps you're right Borg. I'm not a huge fan of Mitsubishis, but I do like the current Lancer Evo VIII MR. Actually, that's the ONLY car they've had in eons I've truly liked from a sporting aspect. The 3000 GT was a pig. I mean, who builds a 4,000 lb sports car, anyway??? I bought it when I was young and stupid. As for your Nissan, I'm sure it's a good car. Hopefully, it's not a Pulsar or Stanza...anyway, good luck, and keep motoring happily...

Originally posted by The Praetorian
Hopefully, it's not a Pulsar or Stanza
:( :@@:

I was just giving you shit...:D I figured it would be one of the two.

Originally posted by The Praetorian
I was just giving you shit...:D I figured it would be one of the two.
Good guess. Would've fallen flat if I drove a Maxima, Sentra, pickup, Pathfinder, 240SX, or 300ZX, though. ;)

They sold a TON of Stanzas in 1991. The only other guess I had was the 240, but that was a truly exceptional car, so even jokingly, I couldn't make fun of it.

The 3000GTs are such huge pigs of cars, but hey, a good turbo (or two) will make anything fast. :) And all wheel drive is fun no matter what. If you own a Mitsu just make sure you always have a few quarts of oil to feed it.

Originally posted by The Praetorian
Funny, I've dated women like you...

I broke up with a girl who keyed my 40 thousand dollar Mitsubishi for seeing one of her friends on the side. She thought it was pretty funny, but what I thought was even funnier was to set up ghost accounts in her name using a few friends and all of her personal information (checking account number, routing number, last known address, social security number, credit card numbers, and her drivers license number) while running up miscellaneous charges on duplicate cards for gasoline, a profitable endeavor when you get 20 people on the bandwagon, changed all of her passwords and account information, bought items over the internet I shipped to random peoples houses, stopped by her apartment at roughly 2:00 in the morning to pull the fire alarm, changed all of her utilities, purchased her the best cable money could buy and password protected it, disconnected her phone, cancelled her previous credit cards, and proudly wrecked her life. The dumb bitch forgot that I had her mailbox key, and well, I took care of the rest. All I'm saying is to exercise some caution when attempting to screw someone else, because just when you think you're fucking them, they're fucking you...

The moral of the story is NEVER touch a man's car unless he's an idiot and KNOW you can get away with it. Last I heard about the girl that keyed my car was that she filed for bankruptcy and still drives the same shitty Volkswagen.

What did you get out of doing all that? I mean, what did you prove?


I receintly broke up with a woman who was bent on the vengeful side of things too...

I won't go into details about the things she did or why we broke up, but I do know that retaliation will only lead to more retaliation until either someone gets physically hurt or the law gets involved, and from there the damage done to each party becomes permanent :(


I've learned from past mistakes that some battles are simply not worth fighting (especially with women). So when my ex tried to start this "war of the roses" with me, all I did was file a police report against her, threaten to file a restraining order against her if she didn't stop, then simply ignored her until she stopped calling and went on with her life.

Originally posted by The Praetorian
Funny, I've dated women like you...

I broke up with a girl who keyed my 40 thousand dollar Mitsubishi for seeing one of her friends on the side. She thought it was pretty funny, but what I thought was even funnier was to set up ghost accounts in her name using a few friends and all of her personal information (checking account number, routing number, last known address, social security number, credit card numbers, and her drivers license number) while running up miscellaneous charges on duplicate cards for gasoline, a profitable endeavor when you get 20 people on the bandwagon, changed all of her passwords and account information, bought items over the internet I shipped to random peoples houses, stopped by her apartment at roughly 2:00 in the morning to pull the fire alarm, changed all of her utilities, purchased her the best cable money could buy and password protected it, disconnected her phone, cancelled her previous credit cards, and proudly wrecked her life. The dumb bitch forgot that I had her mailbox key, and well, I took care of the rest. All I'm saying is to exercise some caution when attempting to screw someone else, because just when you think you're fucking them, they're fucking you...

The moral of the story is NEVER touch a man's car unless he's an idiot and KNOW you can get away with it. Last I heard about the girl that keyed my car was that she filed for bankruptcy and still drives the same shitty Volkswagen.

Wouldnt displaying this kind of information land you in jail if she ever read this board and showed it to the police?

Originally posted by Lokideviluk
Wouldnt displaying this kind of information land you in jail if she ever read this board and showed it to the police?
Yeah, probably. I'd be arrested big time, but I'd deny ever making the charges, while the police tried to sequester 5 year old gas station tapes, tracked IP activity from public domains, and realized that the evidence they had against me was largely circumstantial. I'd just say that I posted this for shock factor, and the fact that it actually happened reduced it to nothing more than a simple case of identity theft, of which, it could happen to anyone. Besides, it wasn't like her misfortune was a big secret. On the outside chance that it was brought to her attention, it would probably cost me 5 grand in legal fees, and a big head ache. So lets just hope she doesn't find out, ay??

Don't forget, she did about 10 thousand dollars in damage to my car. All she would have had to do was leave it alone, and I would've left her alone. She made it about money, not me. All things told, I didn't even cost her that much, so to be completely honest, I don't have a guilty conscience here.

What goes around - comes around

Originally posted by Dunkirk101
What did you get out of doing all that? I mean, what did you prove?


I receintly broke up with a woman who was bent on the vengeful side of things too...

I won't go into details about the things she did or why we broke up, but I do know that retaliation will only lead to more retaliation until either someone gets physically hurt or the law gets involved, and from there the damage done to each party becomes permanent :(


I've learned from past mistakes that some battles are simply not worth fighting (especially with women). So when my ex tried to start this "war of the roses" with me, all I did was file a police report against her, threaten to file a restraining order against her if she didn't stop, then simply ignored her until she stopped calling and went on with her life.
I totally understand what you're saying, and if the attack against me were unprovoked, then I'd be a complete asshole for doing what I did. I suppose I should've let it slide, and to be honest, I entertained the thought of doing just that. I knew if I went to the police, they wouldn't do jack shit to her because they couldn't PROVE she actually keyed my ENTIRE car, so I didn't even bother with the law. She was the type person who took joy in screwing ex-boyfriends. She told certain "mutual" friends that she enjoyed defacing my property, and when I heard that, that I decided to answer back in a fashion so brutal, she couldn't fire back. I do feel a little bad, but as I said earlier, what goes around, comes around.

lol dont get me wrong im in total awe at the sheer depth you went to and actually quite admire the amount of effort you put into it. Revenge is probably a Sin, but then if it wasnt it probably wouldnt be half as fun as it was.

Also, people can call me names or beat me down and im amazingly held back when retaliating (partly due to size and just mentally dont like fights) but If anyone ever touched my cars in a harsh way id go fuc*ing mental. Its like having someone deface your child, they mean that much to me :)

Thanks, Loki - but it was purely evil. It took upwards of 4 months and I was dedicated.

Btw, I did hear something of her situation roughly a year ago, and the info I got sounded promising. She was pregnant with some 40 year-old stockbrokers kid, and was getting married the following year (that being sometime soon). He lives downtown Chicago (on the Gold Cost, which is also known as "money central"), he works for a big firm, and drives a new E Class Mercedes. I'm guessing her situation isn't so bad anymore. Hell, good luck to her...

If anything, I pray for his car's well being, but I think it's safe to assume she learned her lesson.

Ah I love pointless discussions...

Nelly- Steal Tha Show

Wow. ::mental note- never touch Prae's car:: (except maybe the back seat ;) )

I've never been a fan of all that revenge crap... Probably because it takes a lot to piss me off. Mostly I don't break up with someone if they cheat on me, if they know they made a mistake and are sorry and all that, and if it's the first time.

Mostly when I break up with someone I just give all their stuff back (except anything worth more than 10 bucks, which I sell).

You're a sweet girl, DF. Stay good, and don't ever let anyone walk on you. The guys who cheat on you aren't the ones you should be investing your feelings in. If they cheat once, they'll do it again. Not to say that every guy who has cheated in the past isn't worth dating, but if a man is truly head over heels for you then you can pretty much guarantee he won't look outside the relationship for sex or anything else for that matter. It's really apparent that you're quite bright for your age, but take it from someone who's been in multiple long-term relationships, has been cheated on, and has cheated on, different women...

If the boyfriend/girlfriend looks outside the relationship you’re engaged in, then it's simply NOT a salvageable relationship. Call it off, no matter what. You might think you're in love with that person, but they are, without a doubt, not in love with you the same way you are, them. Take this advice from someone who's been around the dating block a few times.

Wait wait wait just a goddamn minute now. Who said anything about love, or even long-term relationships? I have done way too much of that for my age, and I have sworn it off for at least a few more years. If I like someone and we have fun together, I can forgive them if they make one mistake. I know how it feels to not be forgiven (well we got back together later but that is a different story...)

I'm impressed with some of the break-ups...Praetorian, remind me not to piss you off...just in case:cool:

Thanks God, I have never, ever had such a bad break-up. The only one which was a little rough was when I broke up with my high-school sweet heart. She cheated on me and obviously I said good-bye but she wanted me back...so she stalked me for a while...until I cought her with the guy at the movies and in fronf of everyone (I grew up in a small town) I said to her not to call me back again and to stop stalking me. She was upset but finally she understood the message.
The last thing I heard about her...she was in jail for stealing money at her job.:eek: